Tuesday, April 12, 2005

First Kiss

Alright lets talk about it! I can't stop smiling. This is great. John Mark the night he proposed was the first guy and first time I've ever kissed anyone. Wow. It's pretty cool. I was telling him tonite how glad I am that I waited to kiss until I was sure that it was the right person and the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. That's not for everyone, and there is nothing wrong with kissing---this I understand. For me I find that I'm in awe. I have no clue if I'm a good kisser or bad, but I don't care----Really. Its such a cool thing to know that everything that I was saving and will continue to save are for John Mark. I feel so blessed. I will say that I've come to see the importance of standing firm, having boundaries that you both understand and respect. From the beginning. Purity is the best gift that you can give your spouse. It's such a treasure and should be treated as such. If there were two thing I would want my siblings to learn from me they would be 1) Surrender is sweet. Rest in Christ and learn to trust Him (I'm still learning) His plans far exceed anything you could ever imagine 2) Respect yourself. Know who you are in Christ inside and out. You are beautiful and precious. Value yourself. My pastor said the other day in church that the cars that they have to advertise on tv are the cheap cars. Never do you see a commercial for Lamborgini, or BMW. They don't have to say how wonderful, great they are we already know. That analogy spoke volumes to me. I hope my sisters know how beautiful they are and how sacred and precious that beauty is.

8 comments:

mindi11 said...

This is so beautiful. Dustin was my first kiss as well, and oh, the excitement of the first kiss. It was really scary to me too. What if I'm not a good kisser? Is it possible to do it wrong? What if I laugh and snot goes everywhere? Well, maybe not everybody has these thoughts, but I did. But everything just clicked...perfect. I'm so glad that you have this awesome story to share with others, and your own kids someday. I'm sure John Mark is honored that you have chosen him and saved all of your treasures for him alone...how precious.
And...August??? 2005 or 2006???

Valerie Dykstra said...

First kiss! Now there's a story. I hyperventilated (really) and started making really weird noises; really ugly noises that sounded like I was dying from lack of oxigen. Oh the days. Take it from someone older and wiser, yes it's possible to get it all wrong.

Steph (and Mindi) you two are awesome. I only wish I'd had your good sense and principles. I want my other girls to be just like you.
Love, Mom

Jennifer Brewer said...

Hey Steph!
I am glad to see your blog! It will be fun to post all the fun wedding stuff. I am really glad for you and John Mark!! Fun, fun, fun! I totally agree...purity is the sweetest gift we can give the one we love. Dan & I were talking the other night and he said that our courtship and engagement period was his favorite time and I agree. We had such a great time (and we still do) together! Enjoy this time and have fun planning this special, special event!!

Love you,
Jen

PS- Let me know if I can help in ANY way! I have way too much time on my hands!! :)

PPS- Are you going to stick with Dec or move it up to Aug?

Brittany Rose said...

I am really happy for you! It is good to see that you have are writing online again. I will have to make sure to check your blog a lot. I love you so much! I am so blessed by having you as my best friend. When I have my first kiss, I will tell you all about it. Way to go PURITY! I am all over that one! I love your purity in your relationship and mindset. You are great! See you later! Love, Britt<><

john mark laney said...

Steph your a great kisser

TA TA said...

Steph all that matters is what John Mark thinks and I believe He loved your kiss!!!
Lawana

mindi11 said...

Oh Valerie, I just can't get over your luck. I would love to hear this story...

Adrienne said...

Adrienne Rose
hey sis I am very happy for you and John Mark.It's cool that you waited your whole life to be kissed by the man you new you were going to spend your whole life with.but gotta go!!
Love you,
Adrienne